Kris Verlé - Altitude Shift Coaching
A podcast for leaders who want to show up with more clarity, emotional steadiness, and authority at work. Executive coach Kris Verlé shares sharp insights and practical tools to help you lead through complexity without losing your humanity.
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Kris Verlé - Altitude Shift Coaching
Why People-Pleasing Is Holding You Back at Work
Do you often find yourself keeping the peace at work by keeping quiet? Saying yes when you’re already overloaded? Feeling responsible for how everyone else feels?
In this episode, I unpack the psychology behind people-pleasing, why it drains your influence and energy, and how to start interrupting the habit, but without turning into a boundary robot. This is real talk for recovering good guys (and gals) who want to lead with clarity, steadiness, and presence.
00:00: Are you a pleaser?
01:42: Pleasing doesn't equal kindness
03:35: The 4th stress response: fawning
04:58: Where did this all start?
06:55 What pleasing is costing you
07:51: How to spot when you're pleasing
10:07: How to interrupt the pattern
12:15: 5 ways to switch off your pleasing auto-pilot
15:58: Conclusion: the shift that changes everything